Repression - What happens when we can't express how we feel

Negative emotions aren’t just stored in the head, they are stored throughout the energy body and we may unconsciously and without intention find that psychosomatically we repress them in our organs, tissues, mu...

May 3, 2017


How often do you find yourself repeating relationship patterns and regretting later the choices you’ve made?  Mothers and Daughters offers insights into how and why we do this and here I share with you details relating to my work with daughters who are in conflict wit...

April 27, 2017

More than three-quarters of the case studies shared in Mothers and Daughters, indicate daughters feel like an emotional rescuer in relation to their mothers.  Whether it is trying to keep the peace and not upset her, listening to her talk about her worries and fears an...

April 21, 2017

The disease to please begins early in life when as daughters we learn about what makes our mothers happy or unhappy.  We learn to respond to her rules and conditions because our main desire is to gain her love.  Some of those expectations we can fulfil while others may...

April 10, 2017

Your family is unavoidable.  You cannot escape them or trade them in for another family.  You also can’t change them...but you can change your response to them - Jami Attenberg

It’s ok to admit there may be things about your mother you don’t like and find hard to a...

March 24, 2017

Emotional support is something which goes hand in hand with the physical needs of a child.  Not having this emotional support means the infant will attempt to find an alternative source of nurturing or try to parent themselves from an early age with no role model to le...

February 25, 2017

Many of you will have heard of the fight and flight response though not everyone is aware of the freeze response.  We are animalistic creatures and when we think there is a threat of danger (real or imagined) our bodies naturally go into fight, flight or freeze respons...

February 4, 2017

Every daughter on the planet will at some time question herself as to who she is and what she wants from life.  She will review what aspects of her mother’s character and behaviour she wants to adopt. 

In adolescence generally, as young women we want to experiment...

January 29, 2017

Your mother will have her own personal identity based on the stigma of how she believed a mother ‘should be’ passed down to her by her own mother, family culture and societal influence.  Her education, upbringing, family of origin and caregivers all shaped her identity...

January 23, 2017

Mothers or a mother figure are our primary source for learning the daughter role.   A daughter’s individual identity depends on her capacity to adopt her mother’s characteristics, much of which happens subconsciously. 

A daughter’s natural inclination is to id...