May 3, 2017


How often do you find yourself repeating relationship patterns and regretting later the choices you’ve made?  Mothers and Daughters offers insights into how and why we do this and here I share with you details relating to my work with daughters who are in conflict wit...

February 13, 2017

Separation may be one of the hardest experiences mothers and daughters go through. 

The intimate attachments formed at birth, are past their sell-by date, as a daughter nears adolescence and the complex love a daughter experiences during the separation process with her...

February 4, 2017

Every daughter on the planet will at some time question herself as to who she is and what she wants from life.  She will review what aspects of her mother’s character and behaviour she wants to adopt. 

In adolescence generally, as young women we want to experiment...

January 23, 2017

Mothers or a mother figure are our primary source for learning the daughter role.   A daughter’s individual identity depends on her capacity to adopt her mother’s characteristics, much of which happens subconsciously. 

A daughter’s natural inclination is to id...

January 15, 2017

Words, especially yelled in anger, can be very damaging to a child’s self-confidence.  The child probably already feels bad enough just from seeing the consequences of his or her behaviour.  Our sons and daughters don’t need more guilt and self-doubt heaped upon their...

January 9, 2017

Binding mothers often do not have the confidence to live their own lives and to make independent decisions without the support of their daughters.

Over protective mothers can also be classed as binding and frequently gain a sense of self when their daughters make the sa...

December 27, 2016

As babies we don’t recognise ourselves as separate people from our mothers and this influences our view of ourselves in adulthood.

Our mothers influence our physical and psychological development.  As children we are dependent on our mothers, as well as other caregivers...

December 12, 2016

Older siblings get more total-immersion mentoring with their parents before younger siblings come along.  As a result, they get an IQ and linguistic advantage because they are the focus of their parents’ attention - Jeffrey Kluger 

You might well be wondering why y...

November 14, 2016

BONDING

Ideally after a baby is born, it will spend at least the first hour bonding with mother, being laid on her chest and having eye to eye and skin to skin contact with her. Being fully present in this way allows a mother to form a bond and connection with her baby...

October 18, 2016

Since the 14th Century people have been talking (or rather not talking) about ”keeping mum”.  So what exactly is this blog post about you might wonder…

Keeping ”mum” can refer to silence and also a mother.

Now, It’s a universal truth we all have had a mother…

As much as y...