Since the 14th Century people have been talking (or rather not talking) about ”keeping mum”. So what exactly is this blog post about you might wonder…
Keeping ”mum” can refer to silence and also a mother.
Now, It’s a universal truth we all have had a mother…
As much as you might like to change your mother, transforming your relationship with her and coming to terms with your past, ultimately begins with you.
If you are experiencing familiar emotions like anger, sadness, guilt, blame or shame, please understand that you are not alone in your search for your mother’s approval, acceptance and love and you no longer need to keep ”mum” and keep it all inside.
With no ‘Dummies Guide’ available to help you make peace with your mother and move on from past pain, I realised the importance of writing an informative and practical self-help guide specifically aimed at daughters to help them find emotional release, gain personal closure and an understanding of how all daughters’ lives are shaped through the mother-daughter experience.
I want you to know, that it is possible to move beyond the pain you feel inside. It is possible to move on from your disappointments, regrets, feeling that you are unappreciated, unloved and misunderstood. It is possible to work towards accepting your mother – warts and all and in turn, you will ease the pain of the past and realise you are worth loving.
Each of you reading this will have your own story when it comes to your mother and for mothers reading this, your story about your daughter will be unique to you. Our personal realities are based on what we each individually experience and the perceptions and beliefs we filter through.
It is my intention to help you to bring balance to your thinking, guiding you to react and respond to your mother in a way which serves you better and by doing so; you will understand and transform your relationship at the deepest level.
What does the word ‘Mother’ mean to you? When I use the term “mum’’ or “mother’’, I refer to your childhood mother, your mother at the time she raised you. This may also include a step mother, foster or adoptive mother or ‘other mother figure’ that cared for you.
Until your ‘mother stuff’ is understood and healed, the inner and outer conflicts you have or once had remain a burden. I reach out to you and offer to share the strategies which have helped in my relationship with my own mother and also the wonderfully open women I have had the privilege to work with in my second book Mothers and Daughters: The guide to understanding and transforming the relationship with your mother
Over the coming weeks my blog will feature and introduce some of the topics covered in Mothers and Daughters. So if you’ve had enough of ”keeping mum”, this blog and my book are a great place to start making the changes which enable you to feel heard, understood, accepted and loved for who you are.
Regardless of your past, you need not let it shape your future, stay with me and I will show you how.