Having the thoughts, feelings and emotions are a completely normal part of life. Humans are naturally emotive creatures and express what they experience. Emotion (E-Motion) is energy in motion. Emotions come and go in the same way our energy can change at any given moment based on what we are thinking we feel an energy shift which we them label as a feeling or emotion.
There may be times when something or someone, triggers your energetic vibration which reminds you of a feeling or emotion you have felt before which is displeasing. If you are concerned about the strength of your feelings and emotions, I recommend you work with a trained therapist, to help you release the build-up of emotion.
The Eight Step Process of Identifying a Feeling
1) Identify the feeling by naming it i.e. anger, sadness, guilt, frustration etc (remember this feeling is only energy)
2) Identify the root cause of the feeling i.e. what is your earliest memory of feeling this way (feeling this energy vibration)?
3) Identify a different response and meaning i.e. for example, with guilt if what you said/did was unfair, what can you do to resolve the situation now? Can you choose to forgive yourself for what happened, what was said, not said and the actions and behaviours connected with this? What healthy ways do you know of to release that emotion?
4) Download and listen into your free 'Negative Memory Release' Audio to release negative emotions and/or apply EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique (Chapter Six of Mothers and Daughters) to any remaining emotions, until they are reduced or cleared (be aware some of your emotion, thoughts and feelings are a motivator and may also have a gain/benefit attached to them, so it’s worth questioning the following)
5) What are the negative aspects of no longer having this problem?
6) What would you lose if you didn’t have this problem?
7) What are the positive aspects of you not having this problem?
8) What needs to happen to end this problem?
When you are able to review and re-frame the meaning you place on things, you are able to recognise when your judgement may have been deleting, distorting or generalising information. Becoming more objective and re-evaluating your thoughts, feelings and emotions, is a great way to place new meaning on your experience.
Re-setting your focus
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom - Victor E. Frankl
· Write down a list of the negative feelings you experience the most in relation to your relationships
· In a column alongside these feelings, you might like to look for counter evidence and record the positive feelings you have towards your significant relationships
· Completing this exercise will help you to reframe your focus and get in touch with the more positive aspects and personality and behaviours of others
· Keep going with this, until the positive list is longer than the negative
Become aware of your automatic negative thought patterns, stopping yourself when you go into:
Mind reading - you assume you know what the other person is thinking without having any evidence
Fortune telling - you predict the future of your relationships negatively
Catastrophising - you believe what has happened or will happen will be so awful and unbearable you won’t be able to stand it
Labelling - you give negative traits to yourself and others, ignoring the positives
Negative filtering - you focus on the negative aspect of your relationships and do not notice the positives
Over generalising - you see a global pattern of negatives based on a single incident with another
‘Shoulds’- you see events in terms of how things ‘should’ be, rather than simply focusing on what is
Personalising - you assume an unreasonable amount of blame for negative events
Blaming - you focus on another person or situation as the source of your negative feelings
Unfair comparisons - you interpret events in terms of standards that are unrealistic when you compare your situation to others
Regret orientation - you focus on ways you could have done better in the past, rather than on what you can do better now
Emotional reasoning - you let your past feelings guide your interpretation of reality
Inability to disconfirm - you reject any evidence or arguments which might contradict your negative thoughts
Judgement focus - you view yourself, your experiences and past events, in terms of good-bad or superior-inferior, rather than simply describing, accepting or understanding things to be the way they are. You are focused on the judgement of others, as well as on your judgements of yourself
When you become aware of your thought patterns and the thoughts, feelings and emotions which come up as a result of your thoughts you can then choose to use your preferred method of reducing overwhelming emotions.
There are so many different ways to manage your emotions including Energy EFT, EMO - Energy-in-Motion, Modern Stress Management and Modern Energy Healing. If you'd like to learn these techniques for yourself I have a range of training courses available at www.stress2success.co.uk/training-courses or for 1-2-1 support contact me right here to discuss a range of support programmes and options to get you back on track to living a joy filled life
Expose yourself to your deepest fear, after that, fear has no power and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free - Jim Rohn